I’ve been thinking that perhaps certain women just aren’t designed to pursue men. Perhaps this explains how a woman can go from hardly thinking about a man to obsessing about him over night after initiating just one phone call. Or, how a characteristically calm, composed woman becomes panicked the moment her pursuee doesn’t text her back.
If you find yourself tied up in knots while awaiting a return message perhaps you would be better off being pursed. Maybe you would be at your best if he did the pursuing, the calling, the initiating. If you were not born to be a pursuer, just as some of us were not born to be brain surgeons, and you assume the role of pursuer, you may end up clamoring your way along with anxiety and panic conducting you.
If you would actually prefer to go about your day devoid of fretting and freaking out, then you must allow for him to pursue you. This is going to take a whole new belief in yourself and a new action plan. It will require the faith that you will attract the right person if you stay committed to the course that brings the best in you out. This means staying away from the behavior (aka pursuing) that arouses panic and other forms of freaking-out-ness.
Imagine how lovely it would be to have his love in pursuit of you. And, imagine yourself in the absence of fear as his pursuee.
On living up to yourself,
Carrie
