I’ve been watching American Idol with my family. My favorite is Lee DeWyze. For most of the season he has consistently heard from the judges that he is amazing but lacking confidence. Lee you’re brilliant but you really need to get some stage swagger. Lee your lack of confidence really shows.  The poor guy. I feel for him. He looks bewildered when the judges give him this kind of feedback. I understand why. Where is he supposed to go and get this elusive thing called confidence? What can he do and do it fast before next week’s performance!

Where does confidence come from? Practice. Experience. Working super hard. I think so. Though I’m not really sure that’s all. For me, I think confidence also comes from the relationships I have with certain people. Somehow feeling  known and being truly understood by others makes me a little less fearful in my endeavors. Somehow having that home base person or sense of shelter to venture from and return to makes it all a little more bearable, and me a little more confident. I wonder if Lee just  maybe needs the experience of coming to know the truth about himself through the unpolluted eyes of a true  friend. Maybe it really does “take two to know one.”

Carrie