Your plea: “He’s not interested in me. He’s glued to the tv. He doesn’t make time for us anymore.”

One columnist advised her readers to “go take pole dancing lessons – that will get his attention,” she said. Pardon me?! What?! You have to have your way with a pole in order to get your man’s attention?! 

Here’s my thinking, if he doesn’t find you interesting or exciting he needs to turn himself onto life and onto your relationship! That takes work, as well as active, ongoing dedication on both people’s part, not a passive attitude on the couch. You, on the other hand, instead of spending three nights a week with a cold pole, spend that time developing a life to love - become a passionista at whatever makes you feel alive and whole.

Pole dancing could be a fun way to bring in some vavoom, I’m not critizing it. I’m just saying if you are using it as a tool to save your marriage or unglue your guy from the tv it’s time to look in the mirror.

While he sits disinterested in life, go get one girl!

On living up to yourself,

Carrie

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